My dad wrote an email to my gf and...?

Basically the email was regarding a few important queries about her.





Me and my gf (both 27, both Germans) have been going steady for quite a while and we are now thinking of marrying. Since my dad is busy with his business he has never had a chance to sit down and get to know her. Hence, he asked me whether he could ask her a few things on email or not. I asked my gf and she said she would be glad to reply to the email.





It has been 3 weeks since my dad sent her the email and she hasn't replied yet. She keeps telling me she will reply soon but she never does. She has enough time to hang out with friends, party etc. but still doesn't have time to reply.





1. Does this show a complete lack of respect?


2. Isn't it the simple things which tell one about the inner person?


3. How would this have looked if her dad had written me an email and I had not replied?


4. And how do I tell her politely that I don't like her not replying to the email?





Thanks for your opinions in advance.

My dad wrote an email to my gf and...?
I don't know.......your g/f might be thinking that it is showing disrespect to her because he is to busy with business to call or even better, meet her in person( e-mail is kind of cold for a question and answer session), if as you say, there is a chance you two will marry, than they should meet in person and he can ask these questions to her face. I bet if you talked with your g/f she would let you know that she is probably uncomfortable in answering these mysterious queries about her by e-mail.......my true opinion is that e-mailing is a cold way to know a person that might be a part of the family....I think she is right in not answering him.....they should meet!
Reply:if your dad is so arrogant that he has no time for her future daughter in law then why to blame your gf


she is just teaching him a lesson


if elders want respect and affection they should also treat younger one with love and respect


how you would have felt if her dad behaved in this manner


he should have given her sometime to meet rather than emailing her


this show that she is not so important for him
Reply:If I were you I would stop to tell her that her responding to the email she recieved is very important to you, and it is a big deal to you.





When she fails to respond to the email, it makes you feel like she cares very little about having any sort of future that involves marriage because she is brushing off your family.





It sounds like she dismisses this because she may be unaware of what this means to you. I would not read into her actions yet because she really MIGHT be thoughtless over this.





You need to look at what she does after you tell her it's important to you that matters, but I wouldn't judge your entire future off of this.





I have a friend that I haven't seen in about 8 years who emails me often, and I'm ashamed to admit I usually don't respond. But that doesn't mean at all I don't CARE. It just means I'm freaking lazy.
Reply:it does show disrespect! and your dad is probably thinking she is ignorant and rude. i would really get to the bottom of this before your dad hates her altogether.
Reply:Just be upfront about this. If you can't honestly tell her that this bothers you, then how will you react about the bigger stuff in life? That doesn't bode well for your marraige.





I'd be a little upset with her for not replying %26amp; I would have to start wondering why she wasn't writing back. Since she's never met him, she could just be shy %26amp; nervous about writing back. However, you've talked to her about this %26amp; she hasn't written him back. I think it's time to start questioning her on her lack of interest in your father. It may be that she's nervous, but it could just as easily be that she's self-centered %26amp; doesn't think of anyone but herself. If you don't get the genuine answer that you want (she may just tell you what you want to hear), you should hold off on the marraige talks. It's obvious that she isn't into this as much as she should be. If it were reversed, it would look like you didn't care about her family %26amp; therefore didn't really care about her.
Reply:She has no respect for you or your parents. She is not ready for commitment. You need to seriously rethink the marriage idea.

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